Robert B. Cialdini
The Reciprocity Principle tells us to repay others when they do something for us.
People feel obliged to give back to others in the form of a behavior, gift, or service they have received first.
The Consistency Principle says that humans have an obsession with sticking to their guns. Once we’ve committed to something, we pressure ourselves to conform to that commitment.
A well-known principle of human behavior says that when we ask someone to do us a favor we will be more successful if we provide a reason. People simply like to have reasons for what they do.
By signing the petition, residents came to view themselves as civic-minded, public-spirited citizens. With this newfound identity, the Consistency Principle did the rest of the work: they complied in order to be consistent with their new vision of themselves.
writing something down requires effort: and the more effort that goes into making a commitment, the more likely it is to influence our beliefs and behavior.
The worse the hazing(a ritual that involves risk, pain, or harm) is, the more your mind needs to convince you that joining the group will be a positive, fulfilling experience. Thus, hazing binds new recruits closer to the group through commitment and consistency: you invest more into the group, because it’s impossible to stomach the idea that you went through all this hazing for something you don’t actually want.
We decide what’s correct based on what other people think is correct.
If lots of other people are doing something or thinking something, then it must be good and worthy of imitation.
It’s why television producers add laugh tracks to unfunny sitcoms: they know that, through social proof, we’ll be more likely to laugh if we hear others laughing
People prefer to say yes to those that they like.
We like people who are similar to us, we like people who pay us compliments, and we like people who cooperate with us towards mutual goals.
Experiments have demonstrated that attractive people are more likely to get help when in need and are more persuasive in changing an audience’s opinions.
We like people who are similar to us. This fact seems to hold true whether the similarity is in opinions, personality traits, background, or lifestyle.
People are hard-wired to comply with requests that come from an acknowledged and accepted source of authority.
People follow the lead of credible, knowledgeable experts. For example, physiotherapists can persuade more of their patients to comply with recommended exercise programs if they display their medical diplomas on the walls of their consulting rooms.
People want more of what they struggle to acquire. People seem more motivated by the thought of losing something than by the thought of gaining something of equal value.
we will find a piece of information more persuasive if we think we can’t get it elsewhere.
we find more appealing those things with limited availability. Thus, rare goods are expensive, abundant items are cheap.
we’re more afraid of losing something than we are enticed by the hope of gaining something of equal value.
psychological reactance makes us want what we can’t have. It’s the forbidden fruit, the scarcity that makes it attractive.
There is a natural human tendency to dislike a person who brings us unpleasant information, even when that person did not cause the bad news. The simple association with it is enough to stimulate our dislike.
Salespeople always want to show you the most expensive model first.
If you buy the expensive model at first sight, then that’s obviously a win for the salesperson. But if you reject it, they’ll then show you the more reasonably-priced model. By contrast, it will look far more affordable than it really is.
If you sell the suit first, when the man browses the sweaters, their prices will not appear as high in comparison. A man might balk at the idea of spending $95 for a sweater, but if he has just bought a $495 suit, a $95 sweater does not seem excessiv
When people are uncertain, they will look to others’ actions and behaviors to determine their own.
Since 95 percent of people are imitators and only 5 percent initiators, people are persuaded more by others’ actions than by any proof we can offer.
Pluralistic Ignorance is a state in which each person decides that nothing is wrong since nobody is concerned.
A lot of persuasion rests on the manipulation of human fixed-action patterns. Fixed-action patterns are the mental shortcuts and assumptions that we use to fill in the blanks of our everyday experience. For example, we assume that when other drivers on the road are braking, we should brake too.